Do not answer that phone

Why you do not answer that phone.

Have you EVER answered your phone WITHOUT checking the caller ID first just to see who is calling? What would happen if you did? Does your body sometimes feel like someone punched you in the stomach when you see whom it is calling?

These days most people avoid talking on the phone and instead would prefer to text. Why do you think that is? What are we running away from?

Back before we had cell phones OR caller ID, we didn’t have the liberty of knowing who was calling us. Remember what we did back then? We ‘screened’ our calls. We would let the answering machine pick up. Depending on if the person started to leave a message and we felt it was ‘okay’, we would pick up.

People who have chosen to be #estranged from their family members find this as a necessary step for their own peacefulness of mind. It is said that this gives them a sense of peace. But when you really think about it, how much peace of mind does a person have if they are constantly ‘checking’ before answering. If we truly had a sense of peace, it wouldn’t occur to us to check, right?

What it boils down to is HOW this one simple act of answering the phone (whether a text or a call) is making us feel. Does it make us feel joyous or filled with angst? And more importantly, how is it the reaction we are having anytime our phone beeps with a text or a call affecting us in our everyday life?

Many years ago, it affected my life in a way I had never imagined. A very good friend of mine told me he couldn’t count on me like I would have liked him to. He went on to explain that if he was ever in a bind and needed to get ahold of me he knew I screened all of my calls so I wouldn’t be ‘available’ for him in any time of emergency.

At the time, I was hurt because I felt that he just didn’t understand my personal situation. But as time passed it served as a rude awakening. I thought I was fine about the family estrangement, but this was affecting my everyday life.

I am happy to say I have worked on what that was all about and proudly answer my phone without checking who it is. Addressing particular triggers through EFT has been a remarkable experience for me.

Do you always check who it is before answering because you just don’t want to talk to that one person? Maybe it is a friend that drains your energy every time you talk to them, or you think it is some sales person trying to sell you something, or possibly you have chosen to be estranged from someone? Whatever the case, you just don’t want to ‘deal’ with them.

Are there times you don’t answer your phone or respond to texts? Please share your experience below.