“How could you? She’s family!” How many times have you heard a similar phrase? Sometimes, people don’t understand why or how estrangement happens in families. And you know what? That’s okay. That’s their prerogative with what their life experiences are…they may never understand.
And yet, if it is pushing your buttons when they question you or if in some way, you feel bothered to have been judged in this way, it may be time to remove having those buttons being pushed.
“We cannot control other people – what they do or what they say or how they act – all we can do is change how we react.”
Estrangement and Election 2016
Are you avoiding talking about the election? Or maybe you are obsessed with talking about it and get into very passionate conversations about it.
You may be wondering, “What does that have to do with family estrangement?”
In either case, if we are reacting in a certain way because we feel like the subject is pushing our buttons, I want you to know that there is a way to address that.
Presidential Debate #3
I have a client – let’s call her Sally – who asked me to focus one of our sessions on how she was reacting to the Presidential debates.
Sally had so much success with other topics we had worked on together that she said she wanted to see if we could work on helping her change her reaction to the debates.
I shared my screen with Sally (we were working over Zoom/Skype) as I played (from YouTube) the second Presidential debate. We didn’t even get to watch one minute of it before some strong emotions arose in her.
Innocent Childhood Memory
By listening to her and how she was ‘feeling’ and what emotions surfaced, I was able to ask some specific questions that directed her to an innocent childhood memory she had totally forgotten about. Nothing traumatic as she thought of it as an adult now, however it was an important memory because there were some strong emotions connected to that story that were ready to be freed.
As we used Emotional Freedom Techniques and ‘tapped’ our way through the childhood story, lots of emotions were released. These were emotions that had been inside of her body that had not been released from back when she five years old.
When we got to a point where what happened was ‘just a story’ – it was not a ‘good story’ or ‘bad story’, I knew it was cleared. The real test though, would be when she was to watch the 3rd Presidential debate.
Magic?
The evening of the final debate after it was finished, I received an email from her. She said, “ ….I was cracking up the whole time!! It was so, so, different. Thank you sooo much for sharing your magic!”
So, is it magic? No, it may feel like it though when you find the things that used to bother you and ‘push your buttons’ no longer have control over you. You feel relief!
It’s energy. Emotions are our energy in motion. When we have stuffed our emotions down as a child for one reason or another, our body still remembers it. It is in our cells. By using this energy healing technique, we can free these emotions and allow them to flow freely, allowing us to react differently to situations now in present day.
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Remember the phrase I opened up this post with? This just happened to me a few days ago and it felt really good to not get upset about it. How about you? What or who pushes your buttons these days? Share with me your thoughts below in the comments.
It would be a pleasure to share a Skype visit with you to discuss any questions you might have.
What an interesting outcome. I think this election pushes so many buttons. I periodically must withdraw from the fray but then I inch back in….
Yes, unfortunately there have been a lot of buttons being pushed this year. Thanks for your comment, Carol.
Even though I have been working with you for months and I know what EFT is and does, I realized as I was reading this blog post that I was still of the mindset that it is (and you) magic! It really just “clicked” for me. The power is in inside each of us and you are teaching these powerful tools. How grateful am I to know and work with you?? VERY.
As far as the election…. I got nothing! ha!
You’re so sweet, Christi! SO happy to hear it clicked for you and you can see the power is inside of YOU.
Sending you so much love, dear friend.
I believe that emotions are very connected with a person’s spirituality. When emotional work is done, it can often seem magical. I have definitely had some “magical” moments in my life and look forward to having more.
Thank you so much for your comment, Sesany. I appreciate how you address that our emotions are very connected with a person’s spirituality.
I too found myself reacting to the news and debates in a way that surprised me, especially many of the comments about women. I used the EFT tools you taught me and learned my reactions were definitely based in past experiences that I could release/let go. I think a lot of women have experienced “triggers” from the national conversations we are witnessing, and EFT is a great resource for that.
That’s FANTASTIC, Jolie! So glad to hear that you were able to recognize that the triggers you were experiencing needed to be addressed. Thank you so much for sharing!
Wow – so powerful to read the comments of folks here and to see how you’ve helped them. That’s wonderful, Elda.
Thank you Kelly! I appreciate the visit.
Great to see you having success for yourself and others, Elda. As for me, I watched the first debate and decided no more. Wednesday might be scary but figured the preamble stress wouldn’t serve me well.
Good for you, Nanette. You know what is the best for you and made decisions accordingly. Thanks for the comment.
EFT can be a powerful tool, and I’m so glad you’ve had such success with it as have your clients. It’s always wonderful when we find freedom.
Yes, indeed! Thank you, Deborah.