What Prison Do You Have Yourself In? Tears were streaming down my face as I sat there staring at the trees. Where did this come from? Why was this happening to me? For many years, I would deny that I had any feelings about my family situation. I just didn’t want to talk about … [Read more...]
It’s Okay to Ask for Help
It's okay to ask for help. Yes, I DO Deserve Good Things. And NO, it's never 'too much' to be receiving! These are the lessons I have learned recently. The icing on the cake was recently when I was the speaker at the Shakopee, Minnesota chapter of Polka Dot … [Read more...]
You Look Like Your Mom
Back when I lived in the same city where my parents lived, I used to hear the phrase, “You look like your Mom!!” ALL. OF. THE. TIME. Since I moved out of state a couple of decades ago, I didn’t have to hear that any more. Part of it was that I wanted to be able to have my own … [Read more...]
Estrangement and Election 2016
“How could you? She’s family!” How many times have you heard a similar phrase? Sometimes, people don’t understand why or how estrangement happens in families. And you know what? That’s okay. That’s their prerogative with what their life experiences are…they may never … [Read more...]
I Didn’t Have A Choice
I recently re-watched the movie ‘The Devil Wears Prada’. Several times throughout this movie Anne Hathaway’s character makes the following statement to her friends, her boyfriend, and even to Meryl Streep’s character – “I didn’t have a choice!” She says … [Read more...]
Alone For The Holidays, Again
There was a time that I actually dreaded the holidays. All because it meant that I would be alone for the holidays, again. Thankfully I have turned that around and have found new and different ways to spend holidays that make it fun and exciting. Just as I mention time after time, we cannot … [Read more...]
Why Bother Addressing Estrangement
“Let sleeping dogs lie.” We have all heard that phrase before. Maybe we even use that when someone brings up the subject of a family member we no longer have anything to do with. And you may wonder, “Why bother? I don’t want to talk about it!” The key question is: how do you feel when … [Read more...]
Is It Okay To Cut Off Family?
Your stomach is in knots every single time you even hear the name of this family member. No matter how hard you try, you just can’t get any relief from these feelings so you make the biggest decision of your life – to cut off family. All you want is relief from the pain and … [Read more...]
5 Signs Avoidance Is Indeed Affecting Your Life
Ignorance is bliss. Or is it? How many times have you tried to convince others and especially yourself that everything is okay just the way it is? That person doesn’t want to talk to me; or I don’t want anything to do with so-and-so. I have no control, so it is what it is. But … [Read more...]
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